Was that confrontation essential?
That’s the question you need to ask post each confrontation.
Sure, confrontation is a powerful tool in bringing your team members to the next level but pausing and measuring the progress is even more important.
Confrontation is more of a cost v/s benefits issue so the measurement is required. And, the thing about progress is that the progress will be always positive if you let it.
The key here is to look dispassionately at the whole set of confrontation events and take corrective actions whatever those might be.
What’s the point of continuing an activity if there are no benefits?