Most people’s lives are a “To-Do List.” A list is democratic. Item #1 (Buy Milk) looks remarkably similar to Item #10 (Write Book). Because they look the same, we treat them the same. We spread our energy like a thin layer of butter over too much bread.
The Lie of “Balance”
We are told to have a “Balanced Goal Sheet.”
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Health Goal
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Wealth Goal
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Relationship Goal
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Hobby Goal
This guarantees mediocrity in all four. A ship that tries to sail North, South, East, and West simultaneously does not move. It sinks.
The Polaris Principle
In navigation, you do not look at the waves; you look at the North Star (Polaris). Polaris is a “Single Point of Failure.” If you lose it, you are lost. But because it is singular, it provides clarity.
The Protocol: The One Metric
You are allowed to have one Fundamental Goal for this epoch of your life (usually a 3-5 year distinct phase).
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If it is Wealth: Then you miss the birthday party to close the deal. (And you accept the cost).
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If it is Family: Then you reject the promotion to be at dinner. (And you accept the cost).
The Cost of Clarity
The problem isn’t that you don’t know what you want. The problem is that you want everything, and you aren’t willing to pay the price for one thing.
#DhandheKaFunda: If you have 5 priorities, you have 0. Pick your Star. Burn the map.